Dearly Beloved,
I am so sorry for not communicating all this while. I was on divine assignments. I went on a missionary journey to Ghana and Zambia to the glory of God Almighty.
We thank God for keeping us all together all these years, may God’s name continue to be glorified in our life in JESUS Christ Mighty Name Amen 🙏.
Let us continue where we stopped 😀❤️
Reasons for Marital Infidelity:
Naturally, a wife who loves the LORD will love her husband and be faithful to him. But satan, the archenemy of faithful children of God, always seeks to destroy anything that’s God’s, especially marriage and the family. Hence, he uses the vulnerability of the partners to destroy fidelity in the marriage. Here are some of the vulnerabilities he capitalises on to threaten marital fidelity and the marriage bond.
1. “Harmless” flirting with the opposite sex: Some people call this emotional cheating. This is inappropriate or questionable behaviour with those of the opposite sex. Like most women, you may consider it to be a harmless companionship, but the truth is, you’re asking for trouble. Emotional cheating often leads to physical cheating.
Examples of flirting with a man include seeking him out, instead of your husband, to make you feel loved, happy, admired, important, reassured, appreciated or approved of; together having “just a business lunch, a coffee, break conversation or unwinding a little after a hard day’s work”; chatting via e-mail, WhatsApp or any other social media handles having a “platonic” relationship. Gradually, this seemingly harmless relationship or platonic love or fondness for one another develops into patting one another in the back, hugging, pecking, even having a one-nightstand – gratifying your carnal desires – and from there on, having a romantic or extramarital affair. Save all these flirting for your husband and don’t fall for a grand illusion that your boss, colleague or any other man is more understanding than your husband.
2. Money and material possession:
Some women are unfaithful to their husbands because the latter is not financially well-placed, and can’t meet all their financial needs. Because of lack of financial buoyancy of their spouse, they fall for men of affluence, and defile themselves. A godly woman won’t allow money and material possessions to be the main considerations in her marriage.
3. Lack of physical intimacy:
Physical connections are very important in marriage, and where this is lacking, the relationship begins to have problems. Research suggests that sexual dissatisfaction has been closely linked to greater incidences of conflict as well as unhappiness, infertility and instability in marriage.
To avoid temptations that will make you to be unfaithful to your husband, talk to him about your lack of intimacy, and pray that he will overcome whatever makes him deny you of intimacy, for the Holy Scripture warns that both partners should not deny each other physical intimacy: “The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”
1 Corinthians 7:4-5 KJV
4. Emotional immaturity or unresolved conflict:
Self-centredness, dictatorial attitude, bickering and nagging of the husband can make the wife become unfaithful. But as a Christian woman, you need to be mature emotionally and talk things over with your husband. Respect, submission, love and prayer for him will perform a miracle in his life, and change him for the better.
5. Boredom:
One reason some women cheat is because they are looking for something to do; they are bored. Studies have shown that women cheat for the emotional connection or to fill a void in their relationships. But some simply cheat because they want the challenge. They like the chase, the excitement and the risk. Some women have ended their marriage simply because they are bored, while others have walked out because they don’t want to be tied down to one partner. These women have lost the decency of womanhood.
A Christian woman doesn’t jump from bed to bed like the Samaritan woman in the Bible, just because she wants to enjoy the pleasure of sex. That’s the height of irresponsibility and a grave sin against God and her husband. The LORD JESUS says any woman that does this is an adulteress: “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
Matthew 19:9 KJV
6. Revenge:
Some women have been hurt, betrayed or disrespected by their husbands and decide to retaliate by going outside of the relationship to commit immorality and letting their husbands know. You don’t get back at your spouse by defiling your matrimonial bed “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
Hebrews 13:4 KJV, and you don’t avenge yourself as a Christian. Revenge is God’s prerogative: “Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the LORD.”
Romans 12:17-19 KJV
Therefore, work on healing all resentments quickly. Don’t let wounds fester. In reality, it is hard to be fully attracted to someone you don’t feel emotionally safe, free, and comfortable with, but if you harbour resentment for your husband, it will be difficult to have any form of intimacy with him. When that is the case, you’re not married; you are just some strangers staying in the same property.
7. Dishonesty:
Honesty is saying the truth in love, living the truth and being open with your spouse. If you want to become “one flesh” with your husband, you cannot live a double life and speak with a double tongue to him. You must keep no secret: “Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.”
Ephesians 4:25 KJV
8. Fantasising about another man:
The LORD JESUS Christ warns Christians against allowing their minds to play tricks on them. He teaches that the mind is connected to the body and provides its motivation. The minds is so powerful that we can visualise illicit sexual relations with a Co-worker, a neighbour, or even a church member of the opposite sex “Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: but I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: but I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.”
Matthew 5:27-32 KJV
The husband and the wife have an obligation to each other exclusively. You don’t fantasise about another person of the opposite sex. Don’t allow your mind to run riot. Don’t allow any unwholesome thought to fester on your mind. Discard any immoral thought immediately it comes to your mind, because whatever comes out from your heart is what defies you “For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: all these evil things come from within, and defile the man.”
Mark 7:21-23 KJV
So, be jealous over your heart: “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”
Romans 12:2 KJV
To Be Continued …..
REMEMBER:
Rapture is Imminent, don’t be careless with your soul.
Shalom
Mrs Angelinah Olubunmi Peters
My LORD JESUS Is Alive In me
“Grace be with all them that love our LORD JESUS Christ in sincerity. Amen.
Ephesians 6:24 KJV
