I am an extremely blunt person, I speak as I feel. I do not for any reason hide my judgment about something especially when it is to my displeasure. Even if I don’t say anything, I will show it and you’d be so uncomfortable you’d be forced to ask or even apologise. It has worked for me and it also has its own disadvantages. I have been called names as a result but it does not exactly matter to me so far I get it off my mind.
There was an occasion I think sometime around the first quarter of the year, we had just been given positions in our fellowship and the next morning, the president called me and said the Youth Pastor will like to see all new executives immediately. At the time he called me, I was at work and the first thing I did was check my time and behold it was 7:15am. My next response was an outburst: “What do you mean, shey pastor does not know that we will go to work?” the boy went mute and said “Okay, no problem if you can’t come”. We later met in the afternoon after service and (You guessed right) he was trying to scold me about my response. Well, in my defence I shut him up by telling him; “If the Pastor comes here I am going to say the same thing to him” and he went on and on telling me what and what not to say as a lady bla bla.
Everyone here reading this might equally agree with him and maybe what I said was too outrageous and out of respect but please, a little consideration would have been good, given that we are not full time ministers and have other people to answer to as well (that’s my most sincere reason for the outburst).
For me, I cannot pretend to like someone when I can’t stand his/her attitude, or overlook something that gets me angry. The reason is because; it makes me feel like I am imprisoned (more like my emotions) and I feel punished at the same time. The truth is, we often hide under the cover of “I don’t want people to hate or think less of me” and just pretend to be whom we are not. We forget this instruction “whatever you do, in words or indeed, do it in thanksgiving to God”. The question is; would you be presenting yourself and your maker in good light when you do something just to get someone’s approval? What matters most to you: what people think? Or his opinion!