This can be broken down thus:
P: Provision and Protection
R: Restriction and Replacement
T: Tenderness and Thankfulness
A: Attitude Development
T: Tactfulness (Wisdom)
As Christian parents, we must provide food, clothing, shelter, as well as provide other material and physical needs of our children (1Timothy 5:8) “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”
1 Timothy 5:8 KJV
We also have the responsibility of protecting them from corrupting influences, moral impurity and worldliness. What you value most, you protect. Children are valuable assets and must be protected as such.
Closely connected with our responsibility of protecting our children is the task of restricting them from getting involved in anything that is dangerous and harmful to them. We should also restrict them from any contact that can induce social abuse, evil association, corrupting influences and sinful attitudes. When we restrict children from harmful involvements there must be a replacement. The replacement must be a positive alternative. Make that which is helpful available in order to divert the attention of the child from what is harmful.
Parental Authority over the child should start early in life. It is for the development, not for the destruction of the child. Parents must exercise authority with caution, and in exercising your authority, you must not deny the child of things that are legitimate. Besides, Christian parents have the responsibility of helping their children cultivate respect for authority, church and civil.
In exercising authority over children we must be consistent. As parents we should be able to say “no” sometimes to our children.
HOW TO SAY “NO”
1. Say “No” unitedly. If there is a division between the parents, the child will take advantage of it.
2. Say “No” consistently. Children are confused when parents say “no” today and “yes” tomorrow, under the same situation. Let there be no inconsistencies in your dealings with your children.
3. Say “No” reasonably. Regardless of the age of your child you should be very careful about saying no or rebuking him sharply in the presence of others.
4. Say “No” firmly. Your child must know that you mean what you are saying. If you say “no” thoughtlessly and forget it, and never check to ensure it’s being followed, you are encouraging your child to disobey you the next time you say “no”.
5. Say “No” Lovingly. Love must be the basis of all our dealing with our children. When you say “no” say it in such a way as to make the child know that you love him.
“And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. Use hospitality one to another without grudging. As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God. If any man speak, let him speak as the oracles of God; if any man minister, let him do it as of the ability which God giveth: that God in all things may be glorified through JESUS Christ, to whom be praise and dominion for ever and ever. Amen.”
1 Peter 4:8-11 KJV
May the grace to be obedient to the Word of God Almighty rest upon us all, may we receive the grace to finish well in JESUS Mighty Name Amen 🙏🏾.
BE RAPTURE READY!
Mrs Angelinah Olubunmi Peters
My LORD JESUS Is Alive In me