A subject that has always interested me is relationship, dating and love. I had often found it very exciting that two people with different identities and characters would come to a point of reconciliation like when opposing forces attract each other. I never did understand it until very recently. The how, I will keep out of the confines of this writing. It became clear to me that successful relationships have one particular reason (so to say) that gives birth to many others and the unsuccessful ones have one reason as well. So what is that reason; it is the ability to look beyond the imperfection of your partner and the determination to capitalize on them consecutively.
Advanced English Dictionary defines “imperfect” as; wanting in moral strength, courage, or will; having the attributes of man as opposed to divine beings.
Collins English Learners Dictionary definition says “an imperfection in someone or something is a fault, weakness, or undesirable feature that they have”.
It is one thing to see that this person is not perfect and has some loop holes, it is another thing to accept those imperfection and see how you can use them to your strength. Let me point out here (before you start getting confused) that it is more of a mind thing and grace. Let’s try to illustrate something here, you suddenly noticed that your partner does not know how to keep contact with people, like most of the time you are the one calling to know how things are, for some people it is a big deal, for others; piece of moi moi, or your partner does not appreciate you, or call you those sweet sugar coated names (too much of which could give you diabetes) but your friend’s partner does that, or for those married, your partner snores or maybe eats in a particular way…it could be anything so far as it is undesirable. But the truth of the matter is humanly speaking, your partner cannot be perfect; he/she would definitely have features you don’t like, any attempt to build a perfect person would be disastrous (ask that girl in Disney’s How to build a better boy)
So, dear friend reading this, look beyond the imperfection, find the uniqueness in your partner and build on it. You would get to a point where you would be able to say “He/She is my kind of perfect”. That is what is most important; that your partner is perfect for you and not a national cake that is perfect for everyone. So the next time he/she behaves in a way that you do not appreciate, correct in love and don’t judge, remember they are human, they weren’t created to be imperfect by their own will.
Grace and peace!
Tomi Olominu
Research Associate|International relations and Diplomacy
Literary/lifestyle blogger| jedidiaholominu.com
