Hey sweeties! I just had an amazing trip to Nigeria which I shall write up veryyy soon – but this is a pressing topic on my mind so it’s jumped forward in the publishing list, sorry not sorry.
Recently, I was in a whole lot of drama. Whilst I’m not one to pour my entire life here as e Dey hot, I will tell you that it was related to my relationship life. Yes, the sacred, unspoken sector of my life had a hiccup and now I’m back on the streets. I won’t bore you with the nitty gritty, rather I’ll share some of the lessons learnt:
1) Every failure is a learning experience. Cheesy, but true. When you’re out of the ordeal and you look back critically, you can see where you made errors, where you over compromised – especially on things you had no business compromising on. They say hindsight is 20/20 – I say that’s only the case when you look back with a holistic lens. If you look back with resentment, my dear all you will see would be irritants and the lessons will remain obscured.
2) There is value in sharing your thoughts about a prospective partner with trusted people. No matter how weird they are, let someone in. This is important because when you’re in the driver’s seat, it’s the person in the passenger seat that can see your blind spots. Social Media is so quick to advise people not to share their relationships with their friends but you see when you operate in a bubble and the other partner starts moving mad, you just might not recognize it – or you might refuse to recognize it because your judgment has been clouded. Let people in.
And that’s what I have for today! Stay happy my people, this life na one!
Till next time,
Dr ETP xo